Showing posts with label raising children. Show all posts
Showing posts with label raising children. Show all posts

Sunday, January 11, 2015

Rain OR Thunder

Raise your words,
not your voice. 
It's rain that grows flowers 
not thunder-Rumi





I love Rumi's quote. I know no one is perfect and sometimes yelling is just natural, a part of being a human. But too much of anything will make you an addict. I yell, I feel like I yell a lot. I depise it every time because I always look back and think we'll I could have handled that a little different, maybe with a little more patience. Maybe I should have explained why instead of no then maybe my children would understand the situation a little better. I think goodness, my kids are learning to just yell and not express their feelings or learn to communicate in a healthy way. There is also a great saying my Grandmother would say to my Father and my Father would say to me:

Children should be seen,not heard

I do believe that there is so much truth to this. Sometimes when I say no to my kids I expect them to just say yes mom and be quiet. No explanation at all. They are children and I am there mother raising them so they should listen no if, ands or buts. It is hard raising kids but I know as a parent one little mistake can me feel bad.I am only human and far from perfect so the only thing I can do is forgive myself and always strive to be a better person so I can be the best parent I know. It is hard to balance this little guys. It's always hard when I care so much about something because I want to do it right.

 I wanted to share this quote I saw this morning because I think it has so much truth. Our children our growing just like the flowers. I'll choose Rain over 
Thunder....................most of the time ♥

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Christine

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Raising Children RIGHT!

I know there are many controversies about how parents should raise their children. There are books written by doctors with WOW doctorate degrees and mothers who have had children who think they have been there done that so they know exactly how to raise the perfect child. Do I listen to them? Yes, I do but most of the time I don't agree with them and that's ok. It is not that they are wrong or I'm right but they have a different opinion then me or do things differently. Maybe just maybe both ways of raising a child might work out. I kind of look at it like cooking. You can make an amazing dish with chicken but how many different ways can you make it, boiled, bbq, fried, stir fried, etc etc and the list can go on. All of them will turn absolutely wonderful but in amazingly different ways. That is how I look at raising my own children.

I did things my way with my kids. Why because I am their mother and I go by my motherly instincts. It took me a few years after I had my first child to realize that I don't have to do what people told me to do second guessing myself (their is a big difference in being told what to do and having a loving suggestion). I hated that feeling when people told me how to raise my kids, I still don't like it, I just zone people like that out now. There are many things I did that are supposedly not good for my kids.
I breastfeed all my babies to sleep. Big NO, right?! Well I did and they loved it. My motherly instinct told me to do it, why, because they were babies and I felt I needed to baby them, hug them and hold them. So I did.
I never let them cry to sleep. I tried once with my first and a few times with my second but hated it. It felt wrong. So I stopped. Isn't it ridiculous how I second guessed my motherly instinct and even went on to my second child trying to do what the books and people told me. I'll never again make that choice. I rocked every single one of my babies to bed...... and I am so glad I did. It's a memory that makes my heart feel warm and big. I have no regrets, none at all.

I just felt like writing today. These are just a couple things I have done differently with my children. I have been thinking about my children alot. Raising them RIGHT. They are all growing up so fast. I have no more babies in the house. I am now raising young boys to be young men to be good men. I wanted to reflect back on how I felt I raised them right and how I am going to in the future. It's a tough decision deciding on what ways you want to dicipline your kids because everyone has their own way. I feel every person/child is different and only the parents really know how to handle their children. We are with them every day of their life not just someone giving their opinion looking in through a window.

Some pictures of my life.

The boys and I

Akai 4 months old

3 years old

7 years old

Mykah three days old

1 month old

2 years old

Boomer first week home

1 year old

2 years old
THE BOYS

Mykah and Daddy

At our first home in CA

NC vacation before we moved here. I was pregnant with Boomer

Laugh and Love
Christine